The power of words.

Posted by Sherry Roit on Thursday, February 20, 2014 Under: General


Words have meaning.

Tell a child he's stupid and twenty, thirty, forty years later, he still believes it. Says it of himself on a daily basis.

Words carry weight.

Tell a girl she was a chubby kid, and years later, in the far stages of her anorexia, she still sees it.

Words. Mean. Something.

Fat, lazy, ugly, slow, weirdo, abnormal, crazy...

Even the most innocuous seeming phrase, not meant to harm, can cause harm: "Don't cry. It's not that bad." 

Dismissive of a person's feelings, intentional or not. Perhaps, for them, it really is that bad. Now, whenever they feel bad, they will also feel it's wrong. Weak, something to keep secret. That you don't really care. They will not ask for help, or show you they need it.

One day, it could be the death of them.

"Don't be so dramatic!" "Man up! Boys don't cry!" 

"Ignore the haters. It's just words."

Words. Have. Power. Bruises heal, words never, EVER, go away.

But do not despair. The good words have power, too. All words have power.

Beauty, intelligence, character, charm, health, willpower, strength of character, expression, honor, truth...

Choose the positive words. If not from others, at least, for yourself. You can't control what 'they' say, but you can change your inner dialogue. It's not easy, especially if you've heard it from the outside, and all around you; seen it on TV and the magazine covers. We think it doesn't affect us, but it all sinks in, brains soak it up, tuck it away in the grey matter. Next we know we behave the way we were brainwashed. We believe it. We become it.

We repeat it.

"It's not the end of the world, don't cry." "God, I'm so stupid, what was I thinking?"

If you mean well...choose your words wisely. Don't repeat a false platitude. Choose what you honestly mean to say. If it's not nice, and you can't come up with a positive spin?

Please, choose silence.




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The power of words.

Posted by Sherry Roit on Thursday, February 20, 2014 Under: General


Words have meaning.

Tell a child he's stupid and twenty, thirty, forty years later, he still believes it. Says it of himself on a daily basis.

Words carry weight.

Tell a girl she was a chubby kid, and years later, in the far stages of her anorexia, she still sees it.

Words. Mean. Something.

Fat, lazy, ugly, slow, weirdo, abnormal, crazy...

Even the most innocuous seeming phrase, not meant to harm, can cause harm: "Don't cry. It's not that bad." 

Dismissive of a person's feelings, intentional or not. Perhaps, for them, it really is that bad. Now, whenever they feel bad, they will also feel it's wrong. Weak, something to keep secret. That you don't really care. They will not ask for help, or show you they need it.

One day, it could be the death of them.

"Don't be so dramatic!" "Man up! Boys don't cry!" 

"Ignore the haters. It's just words."

Words. Have. Power. Bruises heal, words never, EVER, go away.

But do not despair. The good words have power, too. All words have power.

Beauty, intelligence, character, charm, health, willpower, strength of character, expression, honor, truth...

Choose the positive words. If not from others, at least, for yourself. You can't control what 'they' say, but you can change your inner dialogue. It's not easy, especially if you've heard it from the outside, and all around you; seen it on TV and the magazine covers. We think it doesn't affect us, but it all sinks in, brains soak it up, tuck it away in the grey matter. Next we know we behave the way we were brainwashed. We believe it. We become it.

We repeat it.

"It's not the end of the world, don't cry." "God, I'm so stupid, what was I thinking?"

If you mean well...choose your words wisely. Don't repeat a false platitude. Choose what you honestly mean to say. If it's not nice, and you can't come up with a positive spin?

Please, choose silence.




In : General 


Tags: power 
blog comments powered by Disqus
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