Posted by Sherry Roit on Thursday, January 19, 2017
There's a lot of advice out there about a lot of different things. And here I go, adding to te plethora of pages. However, I believe I'm about to tell you to ignore all of that advice-- at least on a particular subject-- and this isn't the same ole advice, because I can sum it up by saying, quite simply:
Listen to your own gut and heart.
When to give up, when to dig in. Relationships, jobs, blah blah. What makes those advice givers any more correct on the situation than the person experiencing said situation?
Yes, many of us can give anecdotes about our experience of a similiar situation, and it can help to feel that you're not alone. That we aren't the first or the last to have shit happen. And while deep down, I think we all seek that magic bullet 'aha' of an answer, the truth-- nothing but the truth-- remains.
It must be your decision. You're the only one who can make it, and the only one who has been in your EXACT position, because it's YOUR point of view. We all have a different POV! Not even the most empathetic person is truly in your shoes.
Sometimes people want to save us from ourselves. They can't. One must first decide they want change, that they want to help themselves, before they can be helped. And maybe by gosh they don't want your help. For many reasons. Sometimes people just need a sounding board with no advice offered-- there. You've helped.
I know, it can be tough and lonely, facing some decisions. But we must. Do you REALLY want your fate in someone else's hands? Or do you want to know that you did what you felt was right, and hey, if it turns out to be 'wrong', try again. That's how we learn.
Side note: it's so easy to give advice and not take our own, isn't it? Yeah...
Listen to your heart. Your gut. I could've left it at that, but that wouldn't be much of a blog, now would it?
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