Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Posted by Sherry Roit on Tuesday, April 1, 2014 Under: opinion piece


A quote often attributed to Gandhi. Except that he didn't. Say it, that is. Yet, I would argue that it sums up several other things that he did say, which is, I'm certain, how this came to be attributed to him.

Now to the point, and the reason I chose this phrase. I just realized also that this post will go well with the one previous, where I speak of words having meaning.

I posted something a few moments ago on my Facebook author page, then was going on in a similar vein in a comment thread, and thought well; may as well put it all together in this blog.

I understand that people want to be recognized. They want to be heard, be individuals, or better yet for some - to fit in. But tell me; at what point do we decide (and realize) that these labels are redundant, and do more harm than good? When I see you, I don't see someone who is LGTB (or any of the other letters people wish to tack on). I see a person. When I meet your significant other, I don't decide it's a gay/straight or otherwise, relationship. I see two people in love.

People. You are people. I am a person, too. I am not a label. I reject your attempts to stick me with one in any category. This makes some uncomfortable.

I SAY GOOD.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

Now there are those who will say that the labels help them to fee that they fit in. As I said, they want to be recognized. I understand this, really I do. But come with me a moment on the thought train and consider something. Consider that all of these labels serve to box a person in. That they are more limiting than liberating. Tell me; when someone says that they are a Republican, what is your immediate reaction? For many, especially these days, it's not a good one. This of course goes the other way if you hear the word liberal.

Do those things truly define that person? No. No one is that black and white. Not even those who appear so on the outside.

Whether you agree with said person or not, they are HUMAN. As are we all. The day we can use that word without the qualifiers, and when needing to be more personal, use a birth name - that, my friends, is when equality will be an absolute reality.

How you define yourself can be limiting. Not simply for what it says to the world, but what you are saying to yourself every single day that you set yourself apart. In your fight to fit in, did you consider that possibly you are achieving the opposite? If you want that, great. But are you certain that the label you have chosen is precisely how you wish to be seen?

You can still be individual without the labels. More so, I'd argue. Because you will not be confined to them. I know, someone out there is thinking,  but I am gay. That's just a fact. Of course it is. But does it make you less human? Wouldn't it be nice if people didn't even worry about that any more? Isn't that the goal? That these things DO NOT MATTER as to whether or not you are a decent human being worth knowing and loving, and one who deserves rights?

Be the change you want to see in...yourself.

We're all in this together. I know, it doesn't always feel like it. But one label I would think you'd very much wish to avoid, is this: HYPOCRITE.

Think about that last statement as it pertains to the subject...

In closing, I will say that whatever you want me to call you, I will. I respect that. If you want to be proud of being Irish/Gay/Martian, okay! Whatever makes you happy. But I will also say that I have found that so many of the people who've offered me a "label" have sold themselves short. They don't fit into the box.

And that's not a bad thing.

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Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Posted by Sherry Roit on Tuesday, April 1, 2014 Under: opinion piece


A quote often attributed to Gandhi. Except that he didn't. Say it, that is. Yet, I would argue that it sums up several other things that he did say, which is, I'm certain, how this came to be attributed to him.

Now to the point, and the reason I chose this phrase. I just realized also that this post will go well with the one previous, where I speak of words having meaning.

I posted something a few moments ago on my Facebook author page, then was going on in a similar vein in a comment thread, and thought well; may as well put it all together in this blog.

I understand that people want to be recognized. They want to be heard, be individuals, or better yet for some - to fit in. But tell me; at what point do we decide (and realize) that these labels are redundant, and do more harm than good? When I see you, I don't see someone who is LGTB (or any of the other letters people wish to tack on). I see a person. When I meet your significant other, I don't decide it's a gay/straight or otherwise, relationship. I see two people in love.

People. You are people. I am a person, too. I am not a label. I reject your attempts to stick me with one in any category. This makes some uncomfortable.

I SAY GOOD.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

Now there are those who will say that the labels help them to fee that they fit in. As I said, they want to be recognized. I understand this, really I do. But come with me a moment on the thought train and consider something. Consider that all of these labels serve to box a person in. That they are more limiting than liberating. Tell me; when someone says that they are a Republican, what is your immediate reaction? For many, especially these days, it's not a good one. This of course goes the other way if you hear the word liberal.

Do those things truly define that person? No. No one is that black and white. Not even those who appear so on the outside.

Whether you agree with said person or not, they are HUMAN. As are we all. The day we can use that word without the qualifiers, and when needing to be more personal, use a birth name - that, my friends, is when equality will be an absolute reality.

How you define yourself can be limiting. Not simply for what it says to the world, but what you are saying to yourself every single day that you set yourself apart. In your fight to fit in, did you consider that possibly you are achieving the opposite? If you want that, great. But are you certain that the label you have chosen is precisely how you wish to be seen?

You can still be individual without the labels. More so, I'd argue. Because you will not be confined to them. I know, someone out there is thinking,  but I am gay. That's just a fact. Of course it is. But does it make you less human? Wouldn't it be nice if people didn't even worry about that any more? Isn't that the goal? That these things DO NOT MATTER as to whether or not you are a decent human being worth knowing and loving, and one who deserves rights?

Be the change you want to see in...yourself.

We're all in this together. I know, it doesn't always feel like it. But one label I would think you'd very much wish to avoid, is this: HYPOCRITE.

Think about that last statement as it pertains to the subject...

In closing, I will say that whatever you want me to call you, I will. I respect that. If you want to be proud of being Irish/Gay/Martian, okay! Whatever makes you happy. But I will also say that I have found that so many of the people who've offered me a "label" have sold themselves short. They don't fit into the box.

And that's not a bad thing.

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Tags: labels  rights  opinion 
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